"He Took Off the Condom While We Were Having Sex"

It is the most confusing thing when someone who's normally great turns around and does something sort of awful. That's what makes this Reddit post so depressing to read.
Confusedgirl897 writes of her boyfriend, "He’s smart, ambitious, and handsome. More importantly, he has a kind and generous heart. For instance, he takes time out of his extremely busy schedule (he works a lot) to help his younger cousin write college essays." She writes about several more admirable things he does, and you can't help but like the guy. But then, she drops this bomb:"Recently, I went off the birth control pill, because it wasn’t really agreeing with me. ... I told my boyfriend, of course, and I told him that we would need to use condoms from now on. ... We had sex, and I reminded him to put on a condom, which he did right away. But then, at some point, he…took the condom off? He did not ask me if he could, and I obviously would have said no, considering I explicitly asked him to put one on initially. Immediately afterwards (meaning, after he came), he apologized, because I think he could tell I was bothered by it. He said he thought I knew that he was taking it off and apologized, saying that he was just stressed and didn’t know if he’d have been able to finish with the condom on." Wait, what? Obviously, she doesn't feel super respected knowing he put his own "ability to finish" over her ability to, you know, not get pregnant. But everything else in their relationship is perfect, she says. Can they get over this? Here's what Reddit told her. "Purchase a copy of What to Expect When You're Expecting. Take a class on parenting. Or, stop having sex with someone who cares more about having a bareback ride than about you dealing with an unplanned pregnancy." —NoxWild"Wait three weeks and tell him you're pregnant. Don't actually do that. The bottom line is your boyfriend prioritized his temporary sexual pleasure over your health and safety. He knew exactly what he was doing. He knew it was wrong. He knew it could ruin your life. He just doesn't care. He's OK with ruining your life to orgasm. Personally, I would break up with him. A partner who doesn't respect you or care about you is one not worth having." —wemblewobble"At a minimum, sex is off the table until you have a discussion with him. Talk with him about how much this is bothering you because he disregarded the boundary you had set up beforehand. He absolutely cannot change the rules mid-play without your acknowledged agreement. Is it a relationship breaker? That's up to you. It is a big red flag that could potentially have life-changing repercussions. You need to tell him that because it is a really big deal." —InfiniteCobwebs"There is no way this is okay. Consenting to unprotected sex is one thing. Him doing it without your knowledge is another. This would be a deal breaker for me." —hyperventilate "Taking off a condom without letting you know is rape. Not kinda rape, not sort of rapey, not a pale shade of sexual assault, it's RAPE. ... Pretty much all evil people make their SOs incredibly happy. ... He risked you feeling violated and feeling raped for the rest of your life...for coming. This guy is trash and no amount of 'being nice' can excuse this sht." —milky_oolong* "OP, that is rape. It's legally referred to as 'rape by deception.' That's when the sex you consent to is not the sex that you get." —RememberKoomValleyIs there any way he can redeem himself at this point?