Senin, 08 Februari 2016
5 Ways to Meet Dates (That Don't Involve Your Computer or an App)
Dating sites and apps have become so popular that we all know someone who has found love online. But for many people looking to date, sifting through endless profiles and spending evenings swiping left to right can get super tiring.
I recently heard a woman lament, "Remember the days when we just met people out in public? Did that really happen?" I'm here to tell you that, yes, it did and does still happen! There are plenty of single people to meet if you want to take a digital break.Here are five ways to meet new people offline:1. Pick Up Single WomenIt may seem counter-intuitive to direct you to women while you're trying to find a new S.O.; but expanding your social network is a great first step in the pursuit of finding new great people.The next time you're at an event and feel bummed out that there aren't any available people, switch your focus to all of the amazing women in the room. By doing this, you're more likely to meet new people that will make your social life more interesting, and you're more likely to meet new good guys through their social network.2. Enlist Your Married FriendsYour married friends love to help you in the quest to meet great people to date since they've heard a number of your dating horror stories. Tell your friends some of your "must haves" and "can't stands" and see if they know anyone you haven't met yet that may have potential.The reality is that a guy who is singled out among a group of his married friends is more likely to be ready for a relationship than a man who spends all of his weekends out on the town with other single dudes. 3. Attend Events and Bars SoloImagine how intimidating it is for most guys to approach a group of women clustered together at an event. Unless he's skilled in a smooth pick-up game, this scenario is nerve-wracking for most.For this reason, consider attending an event or bar solo or stepping away from your group of friends so you're more likely to be approached.And, if you want to stand out in the room, take the advice of Ben Parr, the author of Captivology: The Science of Attracting Attention: "The science is clear: brighter, warmer colors attract our gaze, especially in dark rooms and at night. This is especially true for red. Multiple studies have found that wearing red makes you more attractive to the opposite sex." 4. Consider Where Your Type May Hang OutImagine the kind of person you want to meet. Is he bookish? Athletic? Super social? Obviously someone who is bookish and shy may not be hanging out and partying at your local bar.Going to new places to meet new people is a great idea not only because the kind of person you want to meet may be hanging out there, but because you're mixing up your routine. It's amazing how many of us hang out at the same spots and wonder why we're not meeting anyone new.5. Consider Where You'll Have Fun, RegardlessDon't go anywhere where you'll be miserable if you don't meet a guy. (Obvious newsflash: looking bored or annoyed isn't the best way to meet new people.)The goal is to get outside your comfort zone, but to still be in a zone where you can enjoy yourself whether or not you make a romantic connection.Enjoying your life and focusing on not meeting new dates is ironically one of the great ways to meet new people. The reason is simple: Most of us are attracted to people who seem secure and content, regardless of their relationship status.I don't believe there's one approach to finding love since dating online and meeting in the "real world" can both garner great results. But, if you're feeling online dating fatigue (it's a real condition!), it may be worth reminding yourself that there are numerous ways to meet new people that don't involve any of your screens.
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